Being single…Views — By Harsha Patil on May 29, 2012 at 2:18 PM
The high priority topics: someone is going around with someone. He is proposing her. She just found a new beau! Relationships are just for the sake of status – relationship status?
If a person is in a relationship then he is regarded as a responsible, mature and thoughtful person. If he is single then he is immature, irresponsible and a careless creature. There is no surprise if people pass on weird looks or comments on someone who is a single for long time.
Are you alright?
Being single is almost considered as being a desperate person. Most of the girlfriends feel insecure if a ‘single’ girl talks to her guy. Not because she is good looking, well behaved or intelligent, just because she is single and can mingle with her man. Is single really a synonym for being desperate?
Why aren’t you dating?
Dating is all about dressing up, cheeky dining, walking with your hands entangled, showing off your partner to your friends and of course sex! Is it so? Where are the terms like trust, understanding, companionship, commitment and love? Yes, there are people who still abide by the traditional dating norms but why is dating becoming mandatory?
Yes, some people can’t decide if someone is right for him or not and eventually end up having numerous screwed up relationships. On the other hand, there are some who feel confident enough that they will know when the right person enters their life. Someone who wants to wait for the right partner before trying and testing all the wrong ones is too choosy!
Obsession with the ‘knot’
Most of the parents keep on persuading their adult single children to get married. Everyone will suddenly know someone who is a compatible match. The so-called well-wishers will be ready to have a shouting match in favour of their suggestions. The expectations and readiness of the person who is supposed to be getting married are just minor issues!
The single perspective
Some people have gone through a painful and broken relationship that they want to take a break and sort their mind. Some people are just too sure about their choices and choose to wait till they find someone who will accept and understand them, something that they call a correct match.
Being single gives you more chances for being socially active and form new friendships which can become an issue in a restricted relationship. Also one can help society when you are single by working for an NGO which cannot be easily done in a cohesive relationship.
Being single can be a choice and not a helpless state of not finding a random person to be with! Is it really so difficult to accept?